The Daunting Expectations (That Don’t Actually Exist)

The Daunting Expectations (That Don’t Actually Exist)

The Art Of Surrender: Trading In Your Perfect Performance For Present Peace. [Chapter 1] Joyful laughs, satisfied faces from the holiday meal, sultry jazz tunes in the background, and only the remnants of pumpkin pie crumbs left in the cracks of the wooden table. Thanksgiving night was coming to a close, all the goodbye hugs [...]

The Art Of Surrender: Trading in perfect performance for present peace. [An Introduction]

The Art Of Surrender: Trading in perfect performance for present peace. [An Introduction]

Tight chest. Quick breath. Racing thoughts. I didn't understand why I was feeling this way - it was what seemed to be a perfect Tuesday morning. The sun peeking through the trees, a cozy heated blanket, cute ceramic blue coffee mug in hand, fire place flickering, and my bible on the coffee table ready to [...]

What does it actually mean to listen to your body? And why is it such a big deal?

What does it actually mean to listen to your body? And why is it such a big deal?

You know what it’s like. Having that friend who can eat taco bell, drink vanilla bean frappuccunios and snack on gummy worms all day but STILL has washboard abs year-round. Meanwhile you work hard to stay in shape, eat right, not too much and make an effort to workout (sometimes) but for some reason, you never look like her. I used to do the EXACT same thing for years - until I learned the holy grail of what it actually means to listen to MY body.

How To Be Content in Life When You’re Unhappy

How To Be Content in Life When You’re Unhappy

[Hint: It has something to do with Surrender] It was one of those weeks…. The one where all you see are you flaws and all the ways your life could be better. You see your premature aging wrinkles coming through, feel the extra squish between your thighs, obsess over your frayed split ends, and how [...]

What I’ve Learned from Unemployment [To The Girl Who Finds Her Worth In Her Job]

What I’ve Learned from Unemployment [To The Girl Who Finds Her Worth In Her Job]

Man, do I love a good ol pity party. It's really a specialty of mine. So much so that I've thought about adding it to my resume in times of unemployed desperation: "Self-proclaimed 'woe is me' expert. 24 years of hands-on self pity experience." When I envisioned my "dream career" all I saw were stilettos, [...]

How Do I Figure Out God’s Will? [Practical Steps To Have Discernment]

How Do I Figure Out God’s Will? [Practical Steps To Have Discernment]

Picture this: your average "millenial aged" woman who grew up going to church on Sunday, bible study during the week, and Wednesday night worship service. You'd imagine one would be quite the spiritual gangster - with all the right answers and total peace over where she's headed... right?  Completely immune to all teen and twenties [...]

How To Stop Self Sabotaging Your Weight Loss [Or Your Life In General]

How To Stop Self Sabotaging Your Weight Loss [Or Your Life In General]

Do you find yourself getting close to a Health goal (or a life goal in general) and then backsliding in bad habits once you reach a certain point? Read here for signs that you're self sabotaging your weight loss (or life general) and how to stop.
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Okay... full transparency moment here: I've been writing this same post for a solid 3 weeks now.

And I've literally found every reason in the world not to finish it.

So I am bound and determined to finish this dang thing - because the irony of it is, I'm self sabotaging writing this post.

And it's all because of perfectionism & unrealistic expectations.
I feel unqualified to speak on something I still struggle with: Self Sabotage.

How Jessica Went From An Eating Disorder to A Healthy Food Blogger

How Jessica Went From An Eating Disorder to A Healthy Food Blogger

I mean, who doesn't love a good "come-back" story? There's nothing that will give you goose-bumps like hearing about someone who was dead in their sins and idols, being transformed by grace and using their past idols as a platform for Christ. And that's where Jessica comes in. So, Jessica is a Christian food/health blogger [...]

Why I Keep Failing – [I Know You Can Relate]

Why I Keep Failing – [I Know You Can Relate]

We hiked up our favorite mountain and I haven't felt worthless like that in years… I was completely dead. What used to feel like a cake walk, now was like trudging through sinking sand. All those years of track, half marathons & Spartan races - felt completely nonexistent. I knew that in the past so [...]

Why Eating Your Emotions Will Always Keep You Hungry [We All Do It + How To Stop]

Why Eating Your Emotions Will Always Keep You Hungry [We All Do It + How To Stop]

I know you can agree that there’s nothing better than a glass of vino or a box of thin-mints after a bad day... am I right? Turning on the Bachelor while tuning out the world. Just you, drama filled TV, and delectable sugar laden cookies. That first cookie: ahhhh, pure bliss. And that first glass of [...]

How Hanha Become a Successful Christian Blogger By Quitting

How Hanha Become a Successful Christian Blogger By Quitting

Have you ever had a passion that you started, went all out in the beginning, only to end up failing miserably? I recently chatted with Hanha, a Christian blogger who tells her story about how she finally started to see success once she let go of her control, took a step back for a while, and [...]

Finding Balance During The Holidays – without obsessing over the scale

Finding Balance During The Holidays – without obsessing over the scale

photo: toneitup.com I can practically smell it now…. The turkey roasting for hours, pumpkin pie being baked, and hot sourdough rolls fresh out of the oven. When Thanksgiving comes around, it’s almost like it’s a hidden rule that you wear your stretchy jeans and a big sweater because you just know it’s about to go [...]

How To Stay Healthy and Fit This Fall – My September Goals

There's something so refreshing about a new month! I'm one of those weirdos that loves Monday's, early mornings, and new seasons. But what I'm most excited for this month is that it's the start of FALL! Bring on the PSL, college football, and all the fall bucket lists. I've really been shifting my focus this [...]

Feeling Like a Failure After A Cheat Meal? Get back on Track [5 Easy Steps]

Feeling Like a Failure After A Cheat Meal? Get back on Track [5 Easy Steps]

It's actually pretty funny that I write this as I munch on mini donuts and an almond milk latte. But let me tell you: no guilt here, sista frands. We found this adorable hidden gem of a cafe, safely tucked into the big oak trees of Raleigh.  The combination of natural lighting, exposed brick, and [...]

The honest truth behind newlywed life

The honest truth behind newlywed life

The honest truth behind newlywed life The Good, the Bad, and the Boring. I was sitting in my cube at work the other day, wishing I was laying on a boat dock with peach sangria in hand - envying all those people on Instagram who travel for a living. And I realized something.... Don't you [...]